Saturday, July 24, 2010


I haven't been online for a week or so. Last week was busy and this week -

my mother died unexpectantly.

She didn't answer her door, my brother and I were contacted. My daughter and I were out her way shopping - I was on vacation this week. So we stopped by her house to check since I have a key. My brother had called the police who arrived at the same time. They asked "do you want us to check the house"?. Of course not - she would be so embarrassed to have you find her in some compromised position (I think the latter). So I went first. And found her. Dead on the floor of her bedroom. Looks like she had fallen during the night - not sure if she hit her head or had internal bleeding.

Despite the fact that I've seen a lot of dead bodies in my job, seeing your mother in her house is a bit surreal. My daughter (16) was a real trooper.

The services are today. Afterwards I drive my daughter to camp (six hours away). Then I will start processing next week as I go back to work.

Going through pictures for the service has been interesting - I've come across a few of my abuser. Perhaps I will give them to my T to keep.


  1. Oh OLJ, I'm so sorry! This is so sudden and unexpected. Let me know if there is anything I can do. You'll be in my thoughts.

  2. Oh OLJ, I am so very sorry. Terrible news. Please take care and, yes, you'll be in my thoughts as well.


  3. I am so sorry as well. What a tough thing to go through. You are in my thoughts.

  4. So sorry this is in your world right now. Good and healing thoughts to you.


  5. Thanks to all for the kind words. I am doing OK. Life is a bit hectic between doing things like cancelling credit cards and the like. Going through her house will be a whole different stress.